Sometimes we forget how scary words can be. We should have learned at a young age that words have great meaning but sometimes we forget.
Like when Little Red Riding Hood had her conversation with the big bad wolf who threatened to eat her up! Yeah, that should have been a hint he wasn’t there to play Candyland.
But I for one have too many times been guilty of dismissing the enormous power of language over our lives. Despite the little engine that could, I have too frequently told myself I can’t.
We are wired to absorb words into our brain, then they settle somewhere in our word vault where they sit, either doing good or bad as we plow through life.
Yes, I used plow because sometimes life can be as hard as digging up dirt in a rocky field.
Yet although we are aware that words can be damaging, abusive and harmful, we are often the ones who foist the harshest of the vocabulary upon ourselves.
Our subconscious, which is not always a friend by the way, can put the kibosh on our good times. Sort of the way a metabolism that sees carbs and ignores their existence instead of breaking them down, can create more fat cells.
Even if we change our rhetoric and tell ourselves we can instead of we can’t, our subconscious refuses to accept the latest version of our confidence level.
The negativity we have pushed forward stays and overpowers any new positive thoughts.
And yes, although we are saying nice things about ourselves, our subconscious, who let’s face it runs the show, isn’t buying it. So we’re locked into old ways of thinking, when we may have not been too happy with us and inserted some pretty rough stuff into the old confidence mechanism.
Our subconscious is like a movie critic that only likes black and white pictures and dismisses any benefits of color.
So how can we change our attitudes and fight this monster we may have created?
By the way, not everyone has filled the subconscious train with negative cargo and been unkind to their psyche, but many have. As one who stowed away plenty of harmful baggage, I’m here to say, that train is tough to get up a hill.
We all have a way to sabotage ourselves even if we don’t choose to do so. Our subconscious will find a way to keep you from doing the things you really want to experience, because it’s very tone deaf.
Yet, I still believe knowledge is power and so I’ve adopted a new attitude ala Patti Labelle. A new battle attack against a subconscious that has run the show for years. That was wired in our childhood. I now choose to be the new General George Patton, a real son of a bitch. I am taking back the reins of this old work horse and jumping over those hurdles.
How am I achieving this great feat you ask? I assume you would want to know because you’re still reading, so here goes:
I have eliminated the words “At my age” from my vocabulary. Or sure they can be used with other words, but no longer together. I seriously could not believe how many times a day I said these three self-sabotaging words. Is the phrase just another aspect of aging? Who knows, but it’s not good.
Do you want to travel to…? At my age I can’t rush around so much.
Should I buy a new couch? At my age why spend the money?
At my age I’m slowing down.
Do I need a new car? At my age…at my age… What the hell? Who am I methuselah?
So recently I head a story from a friend about an incredibly successful and influential man in his nineties remarrying for the fourth time.
“Wow, quite an optimist,” I said.
“No, you don’t understand,” my friend said. “That’s not how he thinks. He lives like he’s in his forties and has his whole life ahead of him. I think he believes he’ll live forever.”
I was dumbfounded. “Yes, but we don’t,” I said. Well I really didn’t say that, it was my subconscious adding its two cents.
“That doesn’t matter to him, he acts as though he’ll live forever and therefore he believes he has all the time in the world.”
Point taken, at least on a conscious level.
I decided I would embrace this new way of thinking. I would do the things I had told myself I was too old to do, feel, think and achieve.
After all I had my whole life ahead, right? No one actually knows how long that is, so why not believe it’s going to be super long?
Of course, my subconscious mind scoffed, fought for power and tried to override this whole new me, but I prevailed.
I have totally rearranged my thought process from, should I? to, why shouldn’t I?
We all should and age shouldn’t determine any decision that would bring happiness or more satisfaction in our lives.
Perhaps the key to staying young is simply not accepting that you aren’t. I know words have power and I am using all of mine to become that little engine that could. I think I can I think I can, No, I know I can. At my age at least I’ve learned that.
Oops, okay that was the last time I say them together, but it just seemed to fit in this instance.
Someone once said, “Words mirror how one feels and thinks. The moment people say something, they are already inevitably shaping the world.”
It’s your world, so take control and shape and shift it as you will. For as long as you will.
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